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The Maze of Resumes

The oft heard phrase “send me your resume” whether from a shadchan, friend, co-worker, or family member is an indication of just how important resumes can be. Knowing what style, format, and information to include is crucial in representing yourself the correct way.

So let’s take a deep dive into this and simplify the process!

Different Strokes For Different Folks

No one likes to be boxed in, or set into a specific category, because we are all so much more than that and so multilayered. The reality is that you need to create a resume that will be appreciated by the “type” of person you want to marry. Exactly what information to include and whether or not to write a biography will depend on just that. Feel free to be in touch with one of our shadchanim or coaches to help you figure that piece out. We will list the basics and you can take it from there. Hatzlocha rabba!

Format

● Comparable to any job resume
● Crisp clear headings
● Bullet points
● Don’t put too much information on one line
● Keep it short and to the point. One page is great! (makes for easy reading)

Information to Include

1 - A header with full Hebrew name, birth date, height, place of residence (could be city or actual street address). Some people also add a phone number/email address.

2- Education, starting from Elementary School through college/ Master
Program.

3- Job experience and what you do now. If learning, include the yeshivos, past and present.

4- Camps - some people include this information. It is a good way to hear about someone in a different setting.

5- Shul(s) and any Rabbanim that know you/your family well.

6- Siblings - can include ages, who they married, what they are doing now, where they currently live,where they are in school. (This gives someone a feel for the family).

7- Machatonim/Mechutonim and where they live. (This can be a good source of information and might provide a comfort zone for information).

8- Family references

9- Single’s references - can be work, school,camp etc. related

10- Friends - some people prefer married friends.

Be Careful to…….

● Make sure information is pertinent and up to date. It can be annoying to finally get through to someone and find out they barely know the candidate anymore.

● Put down references that will be good advocates for you and who are good at expressing themselves. People who do not sound sure of themselves, are hesitant, lack self-confidence, or are very quiet, can come across the wrong way on the phone and scare prospects away.

● Prepare your references with any situations that need explanation as to how you would like them to present things. (eg. divorce, illness in the family, etc.)

● Proofread to make sure there are no sloppy mistakes

● Ask someone you trust to look it over and give you the o.k.

Biographies

Some people like to write a short biography that sums up their essence and highlights their strong points. This gives you an opportunity to share core values, talents, interests etc. that might help pull a potential party towards you. It should be a real, authentic, and not an effusive picture of who you are.

Ultimately we know that all is in the capable and far-reaching hands of Hashem. Resumes are just a part of our hishtadlus (efforts).

Hatzlocha Rabba!